No one goes into a relationship with the intension of breaking up but when we do breakup lessons should be learnt.
As for me what I have learnt never give all your heart to a relationship...I mean never be too emotional...60% emotions 40% sense.
Our emotions can becloud our judgements a times even when there are signs of the wall. We should use our brains more in relationship.
Share your experience...what have you learnt from your previous relationship?
A relationship should at least give you three things, love, comfort and happiness and from an African perspective it should land you to something serious like marriage . If it is not giving you any of this it is not worth your time. There are certain characteristics as a woman you should look out for in a man before you date him. Here is a list of guys that are not worth your time.1. The guy who is like 36 about to turn 37, and still can't get his sh*t together and commit to an exclusive relationship with you. You have been dating for 7 years or so, really? Wake up, he is wasting your time! Even though he tells you he loves you and wants to be with you. He's not actually an ; and can’t make the right decision to move his life forward, you deserve a man who has a brain and can get things moving.2. The guy that says he is an adult and ready to commit but when you bring up getting engaged, or getting formal he says something like, "Wait, I feel like we're moving too fast?" Like seriously dude? Here is the idea dude, take off that diaper you have on and put on your big-boy pants because we've been dating for 3 and above years. We are not growing any younger!3. That guy who is ever broke. I hate sounding like a gold digger neither am I teaching you to be one but I believe any smart girl should not settle for brokenness. That guy who never seems to have any cash and is acting like you are his sugar Mama or something like that is not worth you. You may be sweet but you're not that sweet, and you're not his sugar mama. If he can’t settle cheap bills how will he manage your life? If you work hard for your money, you deserve a man who also works hard for his.4. The guy who will never commit which you're aware of, yet you keep dating because you think he's hot and he has the TDH looks. Look, if the hottest of the hottest guys can settle down, so can him the guy you're dating. So if committing isn't his thing, then committing to him isn't yours either.5. The guy who only texts and never calls. Why on earth would you want to be with a guy who can't even talk to you? Texts are for people who fear verbal communication and want an easy way to drop off the face of the earth for a week if they feel like it.6. The guy who gives you backhanded compliments. "Oh, you look hot with your hair than weaves." "You look so great in a dress." He may as well tell you he only likes you after your face has been filtered so that it looks like he's viewing you through wax paper.7. The guy who texts you every day for a week then disappears for 10 days, only to resurface and text you as if everything's normal. "Sorry, been busy at work. How r u?” and replies,’K’ as if he has no time to even write a full ‘okay’.Look,if he has enough time to go to the bathroom, he has enough time to send you a text message because you know he looked at his phone when he was in there.
1. If A Boy Cries For A Girl, That Doesn't Mean He Is silly.
2. If A Boy Cant Move On To Another Girl,That Doesn't Mean He Is Stubborn.
3. If A Boy Gets Depressed For 'one Girl', That Doesn't Mean He Is A Loser.
4. If A Boy Always Dreams About Only 'one Girl',That Doesn't Mean He's Just
Got Addicted To Her.
5. If A Boy Is Obsessed For One Girl, That Doesn't Mean He Cant Be With Any
Other Girl.
6. If A Boy Is Crazy For One Girl, That Doesn't Mean He Has Lost His Mind.
What All These Means Is: He Loves That Girl
So Much That He Cant Love Any Other Girl In
The Same Way.
He care for her and always will.
There are so many girls for him to date but he has decided
to stick to her.
If you've gat a quy like that dont take his love for granted.
Remember, some are so desperate and will beso much happy to just have what you have.
In as much as body nobi firewood and we know that nature has designed it in such a way that men naturally gets attracted to the opposite sex, but you will agree with me that too much of everything is truly bad.
When a guy lacks self control whenever he sees a girl and start reasoning with his joystick all the time instead of his brain, then you know that it has indeed gotten out of hand and such guys should retrace their steps and mental reasoning unless they remain woman wrapper and keep on chasing things under the skirt throughout their lifetime instead of using most of their times to achieving other great things in live.
It is sad to know that many guys out there belong to such categories and the female folks have taken advantage of that to remain arrogant and fill themselves with so much ego, meanwhile many of them are just bimbos.
If you are woman sick that you don't always control yourself at the sight of pretty girls or anything lady, you need some cool mental therapy.
I do tell people that between man and woman attractions, that it all has to do with your mind on the part of guys and nothing much, you can be in company of bevies without shaking all the time or having to reason with your joystick, it is just a mind thing and nothing special.
Here are the 5 things guys should endeavor to stop doing mostly in front of girls that over raises the girls self esteem and always placing them where most of them don't even belong.
1. Stop being idle and get busy- An idle mind is truly a devils workshop, if you are always busy, you will notice that most times you won't have much time for the ladies and they will not move you all the time. But when you are less busy, you always think of them and whenever a beautiful girl passes, you gaze helplessly and always feel like getting under her, and sometimes in your idleness you start self-servicing.
2. Stop giving them so much attention - girls generally are attention seekers, and the more you give it to them they more shakara they do. Give girls much attention at your own peril. Girls are no higher being, they are equal creatures as you, nothing much special, even the 2 minute satisfaction you get when you lay them doesn't worth breaking your head over girls... I always laugh at guys that fight after ladies and will never stop laughing. I haven't seen any girl in this world that is not my wife that I will fight my fellow guys because of, moreso when there are many fishes in the river.
3. The rich dude should stop spoiling them with money- It is funny at times how this guys spend money on girls, not because they truly love the girls but just because they want to have them at their beck and call on their bed anytime they need to satisfy themselves sexually. You don't even need to buy a girl a million Naira worth of smartphone before you can lay her, then why spend the money carelessly on one unloyal babe out there that is only loyal because of your full pocket and when you have millions of people out there that genuinely need the money for at least their upkeep. Instead of me to spend millions on girl because I just want to get under, I rather dash the money out to some helpless folks out there, I think by so doing, I will be much more than satisfied.
4. The students one should stop doing all the assignments for their female counterpart - For Gods sake, both the guys and girls are in school for the same purpose, and I am not saying that you should not assist them atimes when the need truly arise, but a situation where you do all the assignment for the babes and sometimes you haven't even done yours, just because you want to please her...I laughs at you, because whether you do for them or not, the lecturer will still give them good grades after using them and you that is the good Samaritan will come out with poor grades. Not only that, you are not encouraging them in any way by so doing.
5. the working class guys with authority, Stop giving more preference in employing more ladies because of your personal interest of getting under - For another God's sake, guys are smarter and will even contribute more to the development of your company than the female bimbo you just employed to be looking at her face anytime she comes to work.
Well I have said my own o, any one wey wan hear should hear and if you no wan hear, it is still left for you, you have your choice
I agree with a lot of what has been listed which seems directed to single women. My thoughts on each commandment below...
1. Dont be in a hurry to move out of ur parents house.
Depends. If you live and work in the same city as your parents, AND they are respect you as an adult woman, it makes sense to live with them and save your money. If there are better job or study opportunities elsewhere, or your parents keep treating you like a child at 30, then move. You can seek out flatmates that share your values if you're not comfortable living alone.
2. Dont wait for a man before you start living. You can live a fulfilled life as a single woman.
She nails this one. I doubt this can be said often enough. As much as I am a romantic and believe firmly in marriage at the right time and to the right person, I agree that fulfilment lies in the individual, and so even when you're single, you can take joy and pride in your life and set goals that give you a sense of accomplishment along the way.
3. Stay away from alcohol. It has killed others and you are not special.
I was actually discussing this with Atala sometime ago as we saw some pictures of New Year's Eve celebrations in various cities around US and UK. People were lying on the streets, or stumbling and bumbling and getting arrested by police or assisted by Emergency services. What is it about alcohol? Please always drink responsibly, don't drink and drive, and as a lady, never drink to the extent that people take advantage of you.
4. Dont entertain a wrong number call, especially at night. Its not the right way to find a lover.
I laughed when I read this cos just the other day, I shocked some people when I listed this as a way some young Nigerians connect. I'll only add that one should be careful with whoever they meet, build up your esteem and be less gullible to scammers. Truth is, love comes in different ways, and if all the couples in the world begin to narrate how they met, we'll be so amazed. Just over 10 years ago, some people were still saying how the internet was not the right way to find a partner, now eHarmony and match.com are proving them wrong and doing brisk business in the process.
5. Develop a healthy eating habit. Always take breakfast and avoid sweets.
Nothing to add. Your health is one of the few things you have control over that determines the quality of your life. Take care of your body and health and you will certainly enjoy life more.
6. Dress well: impression count. People will judge you by the way you dress even before dey talk to you.
True. Always.
7. Dont use sex as proof of love. Sex is no proof of love, he'll leave you after the sex.
I agree with the first part, and not so much with the second. Sex is definitely not a proof of love, but not all men will leave you after sex. Sex is usually a part of romantic relationships, but is not separate from other aspects of the people in the relationship, and how they feel about each other. If a man respects and likes you beyond your sexuality, he will be with you with or without sex, and before and after sex too. That is why many marriages last till death. And by the way, marriage is no proof of love either, some men leave also.
8. Dont marry for the money, else you'll become one of his possessions.
Hey, marry for whatever reason you want, only make sure your man respects you. Some men treat their possessions better than some other men treat their so-called wives. Who has seen a man bash the windscreen in on a porshe, and yet some women face domestic violence daily. See, whatever you marry for, and that includes love, you will still have to work to make your marriage work. And for what it's worth, money makes love, romance and marriage easier and more enjoyable :)
9. Add value to yourself - get a career. Dont be fooled that a man will solve all your problems.
Thank you to whoever wrote this, and may the Nigerian god continue to bless their hustle!
10. Beauty is not everything. If it is all you have, u'll lose ur place to someone beautiful better more matured and competent than you..
Beauty is definitely not everything, and though it can open doors, it also comes with its own baggage. Some other qualities like honesty, smarts, passion, and a heart of charity are even more important, and also, maturity and competence.
A wise man once told me, no matter how HOT she is, somebody somewhere is sick of her....
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