GIVE YOUR FACEBOOK PROFILE A CLEAN SLATE

When you’re looking for a fresh graduate job, one thing that can hold you back or make you shine is your Facebook profile. Many recent graduates have had their profiles since secondary school, which can pose some dilemmas when sharing that profile with potential employers. Will they see a professional layout of your skills and character or the time you won the beer-drinking contest at your local bar? Unfortunately, once something is posted, it can last a lifetime and the only way to be sure your profile is more professional is to start from scratch.

Social Media for Job Hunting

Entry level job boards often combine social media with their own job seeker profile. It is totally voluntary whether you link a social media account with your job seeking account, but it does give employers a way to take a peek at who you are more in depth. If your privacy settings are set to “Public” on your posts, odds are they’ll be able to see your posts without friending you. Yet, some will send a friend request. That’s not the time to start scrubbing your board for offensive material that can cost you a job. Instead, you might want to be proactive and create a new account instead. Pay special attention to:

Your Photos – Don’t post photos that make you seem unprofessional. Stay covered and try to get a full face shot for the basic profile shot. This makes you appear more authentic and open.

Your Page Likes – Don’t like things that may be considered controversial or fringe. These will show up on their feed, once they friend you, as you having liked them.

Your Personal Information – Make sure it matches what’s on your resume. Fill it out completely so that you have sufficient information they can verify.

After you’ve gotten a clean profile, use it to expedite your search for new grad jobs immediately.

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WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A SON ABOUT MARRIAGE

1. My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never asked you if you’re saving or investing, and she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry her.

2. My son, a woman could be a good wife to you, some could be a good mother to your children but if you’ve found a woman like a mother to you, your children and your family, please don’t let her go.

3. My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to the kitchen, where did you get that from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands where they worked every morning . . . that was our office.

4. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the house, don’t look at your pocket; look if you will see a smile on your wife’s face.

5. My son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife be in-charge of your salary, it will be difficult for her to spend it when she’s aware of the home needs and bills to pay but if it’s in your care, she will keep you asking even when all has been spent.

6. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in her body is nothing to be compared to the wound on her heart and that means you may be in trouble living with a wounded woman.

7. My son, now that you’re married, if you live a bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon be single again.

8. My son, in our days, we had many wives and many children because of our large farm-lands and many harvests, there are hardly any land for farming anymore, so embrace your woman closely.

9. My son, under the cocoa tree that I did meet your mother could be your eateries and restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the closet thing we did there was to embrace each other.

10. My son, don’t be carried away when you start making more money, instead of spending on those tiny legs that never knew how hard you worked to get it, spend it on that woman that stood by you all along.

11. My son, when I threw little stones or whistled at the window of your mother father’s house, to call her out, it was not for sex, it was because I missed her so much.

12. My son, remember, when you say your wife has changed, there could be something you’ve stopped doing too.

13. My son, your mother, Asake rode the bicycle with me before I bought that tortoise car outside there, any woman that won’t endure with you in your little beginning should not enjoy your riches.

14. My son, don’t compare your wife to any woman, there are ways she’s enduring you too and has she ever compared you to any man?

15. My son, there is this thing you people call feminism, well, if a woman claim to have equal right with you in the house, divide all the bills into two equal parts, take one part and ask her to start paying the other part.

16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more yams to her father, if you don’t meet your wife a virgin, don’t blame her, what I didn’t tell you is that our women had prestige.

17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school because I was foolish like many to think a female child won’t extend my family name, please don’t make that mistake, the kind of female achievers I see nowadays has made the male-gender an ordinary tag.

18. My son, your mother have once locked up the cloth I was wearing and almost tore it because she was angry, I did not raise my hand to beat her because of a day like this, so that I can be proud to tell you that I never for once beat your mother.

19. My son, in our days, our women had more of natural beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor painting of their appellation mostly on their arms, the ones you people now call tattoo, but don’t forget that they didn’t expose any part of their body like your women of nowadays.

20. My son, your mother and I are not interested in what happens in your marriage, try to handle issues without always coming to us.

21. My son, remember I bought your mother’s first sewing machine for her, help your wife achieve her dreams just as you’re pursuing yours.

22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your mother, it’s a secret of growing old and having children to take care of you too.

23. My son, pray with your family, there is a tomorrow you don’t know, talk to God that knows everything, everyday.

Top 10 Budget Perfumes For Men

Not everyone has the means to buy an expensive perfume. And even if you do have the means, it does not hurt to buy cheap and you still end up smelling great. Below are some good but yet affordable perfumes for men:

1. Davidoff Cool Water
2. Chairman by Yves De Sistelle
3. Azarro Chrome by Azzarro
4. Nautica Voyage by Nautica
5. Cuba Gold by Cuba
6. Lanvin L`Homme Sport by Lanvin
7. 24 Gold by ScentStory
8. Lanvin Avant Garde by Lanvin
9. Joop by Joop! 
10. Azarro Legend by Azarro
11. Midnight in Paris by Van Cleef & Arpels

You can add yours to expand the list 

8 Things Guys Need To Fix Before Approaching A Lady

First impression lasts long as this is peculiar to the way a guy presents himself before a lady.

Often times I have seen guys been rejected by ladies because they fail to do their homework exercise.

However, there are certain things guys need to fix before approaching a lady which are;

1. Lustful glances

There are stylish ways to analysing the shape of a lady. However, not in front of her as you will be sizing her b**bs, fantasising her butt as if a tokunbo car is being checked. This attitude has changed wheel online when you see threads discussing about the shape of some female monikers. Na wao!

2. Body and Mouth Odour

The economy cannot be that bad as you can't afford to buy toothpaste and brush. Hitherto, It's shameful when the odour oozing out from some guys mouth is like a dead rat. Also, they can't purchase common N50 shaving stick to lower the forest region of their private section. Looking at their armpit will not be different from glancing a dustbin house.

3. Bad Vocabulary

I don't understand why some guys will not work on their english as they vomit bad vocabulary like bullets to wooing a lady. These are the category of guys who complained of ladies been a hoo simply because they won't give in to their blunder.

4. Tattered and Disgusting Outfit

Kingtom and Jacksparrow1207 will not cease to amaze me as they sag trousers(torn jeans for that matter) to woo babes. No wonder mhizkel and co. reject their proposal like a visa application been rejected at american embassy. Their latest move is to customised females monikers as tattoo on their skin. See desperation to get girlfriend.

5. Using Animal Sound To Call A Lady's Attention 

Yesterday I received the insult of my life when I used whistling sound to call ishilove's attention as if she is a "bingo". She gave me a resounding/dirty slap and promised to ban me for 10years *Abeg Ishilove na joke* E jooo oo!

6. Sending Friends to do your bidding proposal 
Since ladies has tagged me and tosyne2much as "abooki fragrance boys", We had no option than to send kinglekan (our errand boy) to convey our message of love to those ladies we have feelings for. However, they rejected our bidding proposal as we have been completed relegated from wooing ladies. #Show of Shame#

7. Consumption of alcohol to boost ego/self confidence 

This is peculiar to immature dudes who have lost self confidence like flying eagles and super falcons. Because they are timid to approaching ladies, they ask orijin101 to serve them bottles of beer to build fake esteem.

8. Claiming False Riches 

I don't understand why some guys will subject themselves to becoming a figure of maga for ladies.
Some weeks ago, I board a keke heading to allen junction. Sitting between me and a guy was a pretty lady. That day I was not in wooing spirit because of the hunger eating my stomach. Few minutes after, the other guy brought out his chinko phone and press the call button ranting about his millions worth of container awaiting arrival @ apapa. I couldn't hold my laugh when the lady hissed so loud indicating the mumu should shut his mouth.
Guys stop proving what you are not, please!

8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married

Don't do these 8 things in a non-committal relationship because, though love is spontaneous and doesn’t hold back, it pays to be cautious, especially when there is no formal commitment from the so-called lover.

Love is sharing, caring and living for and with someone.

Most people will agree also that falling in love, finding love, is getting more and more difficult – with most people preferring to go for physical relationships of sex without emotions.

What this means is that staying in a relationship for long is almost a dream.

A few days of sex and seeming love end in bitterness and you’re in the love market again.

This is why, even when the relationship seems perfect, there are some things you must never do for that person — at least not until you’re wedded or there’s a binding document in place.

Love is about giving in and giving up a few things, but…

1. Don’t change your personality. Now, they say you should change for the one you love. Yes, that is true. But when the changing comes from you alone and it seems like you’re being re-manufactured, then something is wrong. No man or woman should attempt to change you entirely, unless you really have bad habits. Aside this, in the event that you’re separated, the hurt will be worsened by the fact you won’t recognise yourself. You’ll be nothing without that person. A person who loves you must accept the real you.

2. Don’t abandon your dreams: This is another one you should be careful about. Two people in love ca exist without killing each other’s dreams. It is a good thing for both of you to alter your careers and dreams to accommodate each other. But there is a limit. A true lover would aid your dream, ask you to abandon it. Work out a middle way. If you lose your dream for a relationship that is not yet solid, marriage especially, sorry will be your consolation when it ends.

3. Don’t abandon your friends and family. Hmmm, it really is sad that some people let love kill their relationships with kith and kin that they had before meeting their lover. They do not realise that friends are the only thing you can fall back to when you hit life’s road bumps. If a lover makes it a case to break your link to friends and family, please exit. They should find a way to accommodate your friends. If you lose your friends to that relationship, what happens if it ends?

4. Don’t set up businesses or share details of official information. Many people think it is love to expose their entire business plans and financial information to a supposed lover. But this is dangerous. A lot of people ‘love’ just to deceive and maybe swindle. If they have access to sensitive official details, like ATM card pins, internet bank passwords, property document details, etc, you are exposed to danger!

5. Don’t become a donor agency. Lovers should help each other, morally and financially. However, don’t be saddled to a leech, a tick who only feeds off you. You’re not a bank account or donor agency to anyone. As you give, make sure it’s reasonable, and for genuine needs. A lover who always returns for more is a gold-digger, a fraud that you don’t need. Small money gifts are cool, but should not become the norm and basis of love.

6. Don’t give unofficial loans, bad personal investments. Loans are relationship killers. If a lover wants huge sums of money from you, be wise and make it legal. At worst, make sure the money is deposited to his/her bank account, to leave a trail that can be used to retrieve it in case you guys fight. To withdraw N200,000 and give to your lover in cash as a loan is not wise. Instead, transfer via bank and write ‘loan’. If the money is big a signed IOU might be necessary. Also avoid foolish investments like setting up businesses or funding projects without legal documents. This may look rigid, but many people have killed ex-lovers because they could not retrieve their ‘investments’.

7. Don’t give unfettered access to private emails and social media accounts. In these modern times, social media accounts are very sensitive. It should be as personal as possible. Making it a public affair for a transient lover is bad, bad and bad. Imagine the damage they could do if you break up? He or she could for example lock you out of your own account or even send out compromising messages through your account.

8. Don’t reveal compromising information or damaging materials. When we fall in love, there is the temptation to talk too much, way too much than we need to. There should a lot of discussion between people in a relationship. But some things should never be said to some people who are not yet fully committed to a relationship. Sharing intimate secrets will put you up for future attacks. Ex-lovers are fond of sharing demining information, like nudes or private talks.


Love doesn’t hold back, it is spontaneous, it is forgiving and every other good thing.

But it pays to be cautious, especially when there is no formal commitment from so-called lover.

To be in love is to love with wisdom and caution…

The brief guide to Life

less TV, more reading

less shopping, more outdoors

less clutter, more space

less rush, more slowness

less consuming, more creating

less junk, more real food

less busywork, more impact

less driving, more walking

less noise, more solitude

less focus on the future, more on the present

less work, more play

less worry, more smiles

breathe

Call Her Caitlyn

Caitlyn Jenner, born as Bruce Jenner, on October 28th, 1949, is an American Olympic track and field athlete who won gold for the United States at the 1976 Montreal Olympic games. She later starred in several movies, and, most notably, was often featured on Keeping Up With the Kardashians while married to Kris Jenner.

At this point, it’s no longer “news” that Bruce Jenner has become Caitlyn Jenner, but the discussions surrounding the woman don’t seem to be dying down. On Monday, June 1st, 2015 in a blink of an eye and a few well-timed tweets the world was introduced to Caitlyn Jenner — a brave, inspirational, and tremendously strong woman. The fact that Bruce Jenner identified as a woman was known since April, when Bruce spoke about her gender dysphoria, came out as a trans woman, and told 20/20 magazine that she has felt this way since early childhood. The 20/20 interview revealed that Bruce had already undergone some hormone replacement therapy in the past, but decided to stop after meeting Kris Kardashian in the early 90s.

When Caitlyn Jenner introduced herself and started a Twitter account under her new name she gained 1 million followers in just over four hours. This allowed her to set a new Guinness World Record. Formerly (just a month prior) the record belonged to Barack Obama, who gained 1 million followers within four and a half hours. The tremendous amount of memes and jokes surrounding Caitlyn has spawned quite a few twitter bots that aim to inform and correct those who use the wrong gendered pronouns when speaking about Jenner.

Since Monday, many notable people have expressed their opinions on Caitlyn’s transformation.
Laverne Cox wrote a lengthy post on her tumblr about the importance of acceptance and support. Her post reflected upon the idea that trans women are still subjected to cisnormative beauty standards, and because very few people who identify as trans have the means and opportunities Caitlyn had, it’s important to be open, accepting, and supportive of all people (trans or otherwise) regardless of the way they look.

Many stars also chose to show their support through social media. The whole Jenner/Kardashian family, Lena Dunham, Anna Kendrick, Emmy Rossum, Lady Gaga, and many other stars took to twitter and instagram to share their support and acceptance of Caitlyn.

Other stars and news services boldly treaded on the very edge of political correctness, misusing gendered pronouns, insisting on calling Caitlyn by her former name, and showing a general disregard for the wishes and desires of Caitlyn Jenner. Notably, Drake Bell (former child-star of Nickelodeon show Drake & Josh) tweeted “Sorry… Still calling you Bruce,” and received a noteworthy amount of criticism for this tweet.

And, of course, various media resources immediately accepted Caitlyn as a woman and began treating her persona as such — forgetting her notable athletic past and choosing to focus solely on her physical appearance, because that seems to be the only thing that matters in women anyway.

These are the basics that should generally keep you in the loop at your office’s water cooler, but if you would really like to be in the know I would recommend reading Laverne Cox’s post (which is available on her official tumblr); checking out Jon Stewart’s rant regarding media, sexism, and Caitlyn Jenner; and researching what Fox News had to say about the matter, as this will help you see both the great, the good, and the downright awful sides of news reporting and trans-acceptance in the United States today.

In July of 2015 an 8-part documentary series about Caitlyn Jenner’s transition will premier on E!. The series will be called “I Am Cait”, will feature interviews with Cait and her close friends, and will reveal more information about the transitional process.

5 Things You Should Never Say To A Woman During Her Period

This article is for guys who find it difficult to get along with a lady during her period. Ladies want care and love during this unpleasant period. If you are a guy, this is the time you have to show her more love and care, don't be harsh on her and most importantly, know your choice of words.


In this article Maxnaija.com will be giving you a list of 5 things you should never tell a lady during her period.

1. What's Wrong: Really? do you need to ask that? Obviously she is having her period and its painful, makes her cranky and ohh! so bloated. She is just not very comfortable and that doesn't mean you will keep asking what's wrong. Just try and 'empathize' with her.

2. "You look tired" : Of cos, she is. She doesn't just look tired she is really tired... You don't expect to be active and strong a usual. Bleeding buckets and those killer cramps accompanied with excruciating back ache is bound to show on her face.

3. "Let's go party; it will make you feel better!" : whoa!! You must be crazy to think like that. With that swollen tummy and painful back, you don't expect her to wear fancy dresses and high heels.

4. "I guess we should talk later, after your period is over": You Should never ever think of saying this, did you just mean that when she's having her period she looses value?. There are things you say which she can easily forget, but not this. Never make her feel rejected.

5. " Sorry, but I am irritated by the sight of blood.": No way and no way will you ever say that to a woman. She doesn't get her period by choice and this time of the month all she needs is your tender love and care. Trust us by saying this you will only rub her the wrong way. Even if you hate the sight of blood, you don't have to make it that obvious to her.

P.s (Please men for a while please keep all your opinions to yourself. With the above listed words from Maxnaija.com, try to avoid these words no matter what and you'll be grateful you did!)

Source: http://www.maxnaija.com/2015/06/5-things-you-should-never-say-to-woman.html

DID YOU KNOW ??

1. Psychology says, friendship is not about who you spend the most time with, it’s about who you have the best time with.

2. 80% of the time, it's not that a person changed....you just never knew who they actually were.

3. Women find men more attractive when they notice other women looking at him.

4. Studies show that men and women experience the same amount of emotion but women tend to be more honest about them.

5. Once you dislike someone, everything they do from then on irritates you.

6. People with stronger friendships have the greater ability to communicate strictly through facial expressions.

7. Pain has the ability to change the way a person looks at and deals with their everyday life.

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PEOPLE YOU WON’T BELIEVE EXIST

The Pierced Man

German native Rolf Buchholz is really just a normal 55 year old man, except for the fact he holds the world record for the most piercings on a body. Whatever floats your boat, Rolf!

Papa Smurf

Paul Karason’s skin turned blue 17 years ago after he used colloidal silver to treat a skin condition. The FDA banned silver in over-the-counter meds as it causes argyria, which causes the silver to react with sunlight turning skin a dark blue. Karason passed away from a heart attack, unrelated to his condition, in 2013.

My Size Barbie

29-year-old Valeria Lukyanova was the first to start the “Human Barbie” craze when she began posting photos of herself on the internet and shot to fame. The Ukrainian model insists her looks are 100% natural, except for breast implants. Valerie’s look requires plenty of upkeep including daily gym sessions and special diets. In 2014 she began practicing Breatharianism which, supposedly, allows the individual to live on light and air alone. It did not work.

World’s Hairiest Man

China’s Yu Zhenhuan is officially the world’s hairiest man. With 96% of his body covered in course black hair, he never needs to worry about bringing a sweater along in case it gets chilly.

This Buxom Lass…

If you couldn’t guess by the photo, Mayra Hills has the largest breast implants on the planet. The German adult model known as “Beshine” claims she is a size 32Z and denies having any back problems. She’s 27 now. We bet she’ll be singing a different tune at 40…

Most Tatted Woman

96% of Julia Gnuse’s body is covered in ink. She began getting tattoos to cover up a skin condition, and she didn’t stop! She is recorded as the most tattooed woman in the world.

Most Tatted Man

If you thought Julia Gnuse was tatted, Lucky Diamond Rich currently holds the world record for most tattoos with ink covering 100% of his body. He has tats on the inside of his eyelids, his mouth even his foreskin. We think he looks pretty cool!

Widest Hips

Mikel Ruffinelli’s husband hit the jackpot when it comes to curvy women. His wife sports the widest hips in the world, measuring 8 feet all the way around.

Steroid Men

This is a breed of body building we could all probably live without, but then again, where would guys like this go? Anabolic steroids can be super helpful for healing injuries, but in small doses. When used religiously things like this can happen…

Steroid Women

Men aren’t the only ones jumping on the steroid train. Women who choose to use the same enhancers as men often don’t realize that the female body requires much less of the steroids than guys need to achieve their looks, resulting in what you see here. Maybe everyone should just stick to whey protein.

Edward Giant Hands

From the time he was born, Kaleem’s mother knew he was different. He came out of the womb with hands twice the size of a normal infant, and they never stopped growing! Unfortunately the 9 year old’s hands now weigh more than his head and make accomplishing simple tasks extremely difficult. Doctors are unsure what has caused such an effect in an isolated an area.

Swan-Like

Beauty is truly in the eyes of the beholder. Women of the Kayan tribe in Burma wear brass neck rings from a young age in order to achieve the giraffe-like aesthetic considered to be a sign of beauty. The coils don’t actually elongate the neck itself, but force the collar bone down and compress the rib cage to suggest length. As to the tradition’s origin, there are many theories. From emphasizing their femininity and resemblance to dragons (popular in Kayan folklore) to protecting the women from slavers and tiger bites, regardless of the actual reason, these ladies are pretty remarkable.

Bottom Heavy

Mandy Sellars was born with a rare genetic mutation that causes her legs to grow at an alarming rate. In 2010 one of her legs needed to be amputated above the knee because of a blood infection, but even after the operation the leg continued to grow! The stump alone weighs about 42 lbs and has a 3 foot circumference. Mandy doesn’t let her condition get her down, though. She maintains an independent lifestyle and even calls herself a “part-time TV star” because of the many shows she’s been featured on. You go girl!

Tallest Man In The World

31-year old Sultan Kösen from Turkey measures in at 8 feet, 3 inches making him the tallest man alive.

Shortest Man In The World

That’s right! Here is the tallest man in the world meeting the world’s shortest man, Chandra Bahadur Dangi. The 75-year-old man from Nepal is 1 foot, 7 inches tall.

The World’s Smallest Woman

You may recognize Jyoti Amge from American Horror Story: Freak Show, but did you know she really is the smallest woman in the world? Her restricted height (2’1″) is due to a growth anomaly called achondroplasia.

Largest Man

Known as the “half-ton man,” Patrick Deuel tipped the scale at 1,126 lbs at his heaviest.

Largest Woman

The world’s fattest woman, Charity Pierce, got up to 765 lbs at her heaviest. However she recently rushed to lose 200 of them in order to wed the man of her dreams. If love doesn’t motivate you to lose weight, we don’t know what will.

World’s Best Moo-er

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Moo-ve over, cows, there’s a new sheriff in town. Austin Siok was just 10 when he entered the Wisconsin Moo-a-palooza contest and won $1000, beating out 80 other contestants. (Watch the video to see his mad skills!) That’s right, this kid got a grand for mooing like a damn cow. He’s also taken home prizes at state fairs all over the country, including a cow print jacket, a years’ worth of free subs and a golden cowbell. This guy is going places!

Strongest Man

Žydrūnas Savickas is a Lithuanian powerlifter and professional strongman. If you don’t want to call him by his impossible-to-pronounce given name, feel free to call him by his nickname “Big Z.” He’s the only modern strongman competitor to have won every single strongman competition he’s entered. Big Z set the record for dead-lifting at 1155 pounds!

Longest Dreads

“I am a very proud and gifted empress queen. I am the black Rapunzel.”
-Asha Mandela

The Atlanta woman and native of Trinidad has the world’s longest dreads at over 19ft.

Two Heads Are Better Than One!

Abigail and Brittany Hensel are two remarkable women. As conjoined twins they each have their own head and set of internal organs, but since they share one body each twin controls one half of it. Though each girl can read and write simultaneously, it takes a bit more coordination to achieve tasks like running and driving.

Todays Relationships:

Todays Relationships: You can touch each other but not each others phones.

2 Types of Assholes: How to Spot Them Before It’s Too Late

Finding a fantastic guy sometimes feels like trying to find a grain of rice in an olympic size swimming pool: almost impossible. But it’s not. There are some amazing men out there among the assholes and it’s just a question of exercising good judgment. To save you time and agony, below are some of the worst kinds of men and how to spot them before you get stuck.

(And please note: all men exhibit some of these traits; what makes a guy truly terrible is if he engages in these behaviors to a degree that it becomes an ongoing problem for the relationship.)

1. The offender: The guy who ignores you when you text or call.
What to watch for: His communication habits. A guy should respond to your texts or calls within a reasonable time frame. If he’s taking an unusually long time to get back to you or ignoring some of your attempts to reach out altogether, cut bait. Nothing good comes from a guy who can’t even push some buttons on a phone for you. In fact, you shouldn’t be messing with someone who isn’t regularly initiating communication with you. Yes, there are guys who do that. You want one of them.

2. The offender: The guy who cheats.
What to watch for: His ethical vibe and his selfishness level. Guys who cheat are weak creatures with weak moral frameworks. They’re needs-driven, not principle-driven. What you want is a disciplined guy who plays fair and by the rules — a guy who gives you the sense that he would do the right thing even if it meant going without. If the guy you’re with has a selfish streak or is coming off like he lacks character, move on. Cheaters are bullshit.

3. The offender: The guy with terrible conflict management skills.
What to watch for: His temperament. Be weary if he loses his temper easily or has a tendency to get defensive when you try to work through issues. A good guy will take an interest in your needs, listen to you when you have something to say, and communicate productively with you even when he doesn’t agree. That guy’s hot, not the one who bitches, shouts and throws shit around.

4. The offender: The guy with no manners or sense of romance.
What to watch for: Whether he cares about the little things. The big things are great but small gestures count for a lot and can make the difference between a relationship or a relationshit. If you’ve ever been with a guy who doesn’t have a romantic or chivalrous bone in his body, you know how nice it feels when a guy opens a door for you, plans a romantic date, or texts you to tell you he’s thinking of you for no reason. Some of us ladies need/expect more of this kind of stuff than others but we all need a little bit.



5. The offender: The guy who’s hot and cold.
What to watch for: Consistency. Guys who are all over the place are seriously fucking annoying, not to  mention fucked up. They’re not actually wavering or confused, they’re just selfish and manipulative — they act like they want you when they’re feeling bored, lonely or horny, and they go MIA when they don’t need anything. Bottom line: Any guy who is not consistently making you a priority does not deserve your time, no matter how hot or charming he is.

6. The offender: The lazy guy.
What to watch for: How quickly he stops trying. Everyone gets a little lazy in relationships. That’s not a big deal. What is a big deal is how quickly the laziness sets in and how dramatic the drop in effort is. If he stops doing the basics as soon as he has you, you might need to pull back until he gets his shit together and realizes that you have standards.

7. The offender: The guy whose life is just a fucking mess.
What to watch for: How he handles his career. Having a solid career is often a guy’s biggest priority. So, if a guy’s career isn’t sorted out, he probably doesn’t feel great about himself and other parts of his life are likely a mess too. At the very least, a dude needs to have a J-O-B that pays the bills. If he doesn’t have that, it likely won’t work and we don’t recommend you stick around to find out.

8. The offender: The guy who cares more about his job than you.
What to watch for: His interest in balance. Like we said, a guy needs a job from which he draws income and some sense of self-worth. But taking that too far — by being a workaholic who always chooses to put work first — is not cool (exceptions include: brain surgeons, astronauts currently on mission, and members of Seal Team 6). If a guy wants to be with someone, he has to find time for them. If he’s not willing or able to do that, he should just be by himself until he has more bandwidth. You deserve proper attention.



9. The offender: The guy who drinks way too much.
What to watch for: Restraint. Drinking is fun. Unless you don’t know how to stop before it gets un-fun. If he has no self-control when it comes to the booze — signs include getting drunk (vs tipsy) when it’s just the two of you (your dates should be more about connection than getting blasted), being overly interested in activities that involve tequila, not being able to go home before last call, and just generally loving alcohol way too much — you should exit the scene. This sitch is going to get way ugly before it gets better, if ever.

10. The offender: The guy who’s not ready to commit (aka, the guy who just wants to hang out).
What to watch for: Momentum. Healthy relationships are always going somewhere: forward. When two people are really connecting, they move towards commitment, engagement, marriage or just towards building an ever more satisfying relationship and life together. As you get to know a guy, pay attention to whether that momentum is there. So many guys just want to hang out and kick it that you may not even know what forward propulsion looks like but, trust us, you’ll know it when you see it. And if you’re not feeling it, pull back. If he’s ever going to treat you well, you disengaging will give him that chance to step up. If he doesn’t, find someone who will.

11. The offender: The guy who’s insecure.
What to watch for: His need for attention/validation. We all know that men have egos that require tending. But some men’s egos are a real problem. Like the guy who’s threatened by your success — he’ll compete with you instead of being happy for you and he’ll minimize your accomplishments to make you feel small. Or the guy who needs to show off — he’s the one who flirts with waitresses in front of you and can’t shut up about how hot his exes were or how many women want him. These guys aren’t men, they’re boys. Pass.

12. The guy who’s cheap.
What to watch for: His generosity level. Did he pay for the first couple of dates? A guy doesn’t need to be rich or pay for everything all the time but he should absolutely pay for the first date and, ideally, for the first few dates. After all, us women usually spend more just to get to a date — blow out, mani/pedi, waxing, new dress — than most dinners for two cost. Good men understand this and reward the effort. Also: when a guy is into you, he wants to pay because he wants to impress you with his ability to provide for you. It’s a primal thing. Ergo: If the guy isn’t paying, he’s not into you. But whatevs… Go find someone who is!